@soffkitty okay so the Wayward Children series by Seanan Macguire (starting with Every Heart a Doorway, which has an asexual protagonist) are straight up queer an amazing across the board.
Our Bloody Pearl by DN Bryn has an asexual romance between the disabled non-binary carnivorous merperson and a traumatised pirate man and I adore it. Queer (and I think ND?) author!
Murderbot Diaries is SFF with an asexual non-binary security cyborg who loves watching terrible SF TV and it's one of my fav series ever.
Loveless by Alice Oseman is about an aro-ace person coming to terms with their identity at college. Other characters have sex but I don't believe the POV character ever witnesses any sexytimes.
Gosh I've definitely read more but that's what I can come up with atm!
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