If you're not comfortable with the word "enby" because you feel it's "infantilizing", what you're also saying is that everyone who likes that word and uses it to describe themselves is infantilizing themselves. Even if you say "it's ok for others to use it," you're still saying they're infantilizing themselves. And if you really don't think others are infantilizing themselves with "enby", then consider why you think enby is infantilizing in the first place.

Not everyone identifies with every word as a way to describe themselves. But you can draw those boundaries without passively insulting everyone who does use a word, treating them as lesser simply because you don't like the way a word sounds.

@atelierapricity @TapiocaPearl NB is falling out of favor because the Black community used it first for Non-Black and using it also for Non-Binary confuses things. So I've personally strayed away from NB.

@TapiocaPearl People should stop associating all cute with childlike tho, or with feminine

@lehlatte big mood. Was thinking about that earlier today because a nb character in a manga I'm reading said basically "I don't want to be a girl, I want to be cute" and it was really cool to me they vocalized that distinction

@TapiocaPearl Yeah people around me still associate me with female and it peeves me even more when they complain I did something perceived male (like not shaving my legs/shaving my hair)